Masochistic Bosses

Masochistic Bosses

Saying what a Masochistic Boss wants to hear,—”You’re a piece of slime…”—is not exactly appropriate and could come back to haunt you if overheard. Unfortunately, complimenting masochists only annoys them, and they usually respond by doing something particularly despicable to set the record straight.

Masochistic Bosses
Masochistic Bosses

As the name implies, masochists have developed a belief that they should be punished…must be punished. Who knows why? The important thing is that they will suck everyone within their sphere of influence into their sick behavior. Their need to be punished is so intense that they will punish themselves if nobody else will. In extreme cases,
nobody else can do it well enough to be trusted.

Masochistic Bosses attract codependents like flies to a Sunday picnic. The codependents try like crazy to fill up the black hole in the masochist’s soul, which is impossible. Yet, the Herculean effort continues day-in and day-out. The codependents shovel affirmations down the masochist’s throat for all they’re worth and the masochist vomits them all back up. Masochistic Bosses are not idiots in the classical sense. But they’re about as uplifting as a boat anchor.

Departments run by Masochistic Bosses are easy to spot. For starters, nothing ever gets done except for the occasional 911 call. Getting something accomplished might mean a reduction in pain and misery, so that’s out. Masochistic Bosses make sure their departments fail so upper management will deal out punishment.

The best way to deal with a Masochistic Boss is to get out. There is no way these people will ever feel good about themselves. Neither will they ever allow you to accomplish anything that might make them look or feel good. When you accomplish something that makes you look or feel good, your Masochistic Boss is likely to say, “Oh, swell. Good for yo-o-o-ou. I suppose you’re going to get promoted now and knock me off the management ladder. Well, go ahead. Do what makes you happy.” It makes you want to take your accomplishment, wad it up, and throw it in the trash. Except that your Masochistic Boss will probably have already put the trashcan over his head and will be beating it against a wall.

Once again, the secret to surviving and thriving in a Masochistic Boss’s department begins with attitude, followed by language and behavior. You must learn to be positive without smiling. In fact, being positive in a masochist’s world means getting the focus off his pain as often as possible.

  • Frame your comments in the context of avoiding problems. If you have a proposal you want to advance, say, “This will assure we’re in compliance with the organization’s parameters without drawing any undue attention our way.” Your Masochistic Boss will hear in your comment an absence of reward and appreciation, which to him is the next best thing to actual punishment.
  • Point out possible down-side outcomes. Saying, “This could result in some negative consequences that we’ll have to deal with,” can be a perfectly honest and truthful statement.
  • Your Masochistic Boss will hear the possible negatives, while your fellow team members will simply take it as a heads up.
  • Don’t engage your Masochistic Boss’s negative conversation.
  • Listen respectfully, but don’t pick up the negativity.
  • You don’t want any more negative energy around you than necessary. He wants to wallow in it. You can strike a compromise of sorts by being attentive when it’s appropriate and steering clear whenever you can.
  • Acknowledge what can happen. Your Masochistic Boss will tell you repeatedly what bad things are likely to happen in any given scenario or initiative. Note for future reference what he is most afraid of, to hear him tell it, and point out up front the possibility that his specific fears could be realized. Then offer that it might turn out another way by the luck of the draw.
  • Include but don’t invite. Copy your Masochistic Boss on all e-mails and announcements of activities that you cook up with your coworkers, but don’t specifically invite him.
  • Issue a blanket invitation. The last thing you want to do is act as if you’re cheering him up. Don’t specifically exclude him either.
  • Give him a virtual hug. Physical contact is rarely appropriate in office settings, but a well-timed nod of the head, sigh, or shrug of the shoulders can have a similar effect.
  • A virtual hug for your Masochistic Boss is a nonverbal way to say, “I know you’re under an immense amount of pressure that you don’t deserve and I’m powerless to help you.”
Masochistic Bosses
Masochistic Bosses

I rarely advise quitting, but, as W.C. Fields said, “If at first you don’t succeed, try again. Then give up. There’s no use being a damn fool about it.” Or words to that effect. The best way to deal with a Masochistic Boss is to get out. There is no way these people will ever
feel good about themselves. Neither will they ever allow you to accomplish
anything that might make them look or feel good. My advice: Get out before you injure yourself on a booby trap he has set around the office for himself. Get out that is, unless you’re a sadist. Then you can play with the masochist the way a cat plays with a defenseless mouse.


HOW TO WORK FOR AN IDIOT SURVIVE & THRIVE… WITHOUT KILLING YOUR Boss Cap II: Chapter 2: Will the Real Idiot Please Stand Up? (By John Hoover) Part 7

Machiavellian Bosses

Machiavellian Bosses


Machiavellian Bosses
Machiavellian Bosses

Machiavellian Bosses don’t think they’re God. They are extremely intelligent and know better. But they will end you for soiling the carpet in their offices. Machiavellian Bosses are ticked off they can’t bump God out of His job and don’t mind taking out their frustration
on the rest of us.

Machiavellian Bosses view the universe as an enormous pyramid. There is one spot at the top and it belongs to them, by divine right. Machiavellian Bosses have committed every ounce of their being to achieving the top spot. They don’t care what or whom they must climb over to get there. They simply won’t be denied.

If you are run over, run through, or otherwise become a casualty of the Machiavellian’s race to the top, don’t take it personally. It’s not about you. It was never about you. And it will never be about you, except for the moment you are actually in her way. That moment is
yours and will live over and over again in your nightmares.

The only time Machiavellian Bosses will ever be content or benevolent is when they are in the top spot. Even then, it’s a coin toss. They might have read somewhere that there is a higher spot to acquire. As long as there is more power to be had, Machiavellian Bosses
will not rest. Moreover, they will leave no maneuver or weapon of mass destruction unused in their quest for the top.

Machiavellian Bosses are too intelligent and shrewd to be considered Idiot Bosses. They are not clueless, except for things that don’t matter to them—like the health and well-being of other people or the goals and objectives of the organization. They are highly focused, highly driven, and highly efficient. Translated, that means lean, mean, killing machines. They remove obstacles from their path by whatever means are necessary and readily available. Don’t cross the street in front of a speeding Machiavellian, even if you have the light.

If you find yourself working for a Machiavellian, there are several ways to protect yourself. You can say things like, “You know, boss, the carpet in the CEO’s office matches your eyes.” If the CEO of your company drives a Lexus 430 LS you can say, “You seem like a
Lexus 430 LS kinda person to me, boss.” You can skip the symbolism and appeal to his insatiable appetite for power with, “This organization would run like clockwork if you were in charge.” Telling God and Machiavellian Bosses what they want to hear is always your best bet.

Realizing the Machiavellians perceive the universe as a ‘pyramid, you must take care in all you do to avoid competition. More than avoiding competition, which she will assume, you need to frame your language and behavior in ways that indicate you understand and accept her right to the top spot. Like the God Boss, the Machiavellian
is dead serious about her self-perception and has little or no genuine regard for you. On the up side, presenting the proper attitude and actions to your Machiavellian Boss will make your working environment as pleasant as possible and, on a more positive side, possibly keep you from getting run over.

  • Use the words “for you” often. To merely say, “I’ll take care of it,” can actually be interpreted by a Machiavellian as a threat to go over her head. You might have no such intention. But if a Machiavellian Boss suspects that you’re going over her head, she’ll have yours served up on a platter. To a Machiavellian, saying, “I’ll take care of it for you,” sounds far less threatening, almost as if you’re doing it in her name.
  • Use “for you” in the past tense. In describing anything you did, include the words, “for you.” This makes the Machiavellian think that you are acting on her behalf, even when you’re out of her sight, and her comfort level around you will improve.
  • Alert her to intelligence. When you find something out, tell her. Send an e-mail or mention it in passing. Being in constant competition with everyone, Machiavellians appreciate information that might be useful to them. The information might not mean much to you, but you’re not engaged in her struggle for supremacy.
  • Copy her first. Make sure your Machiavellian Boss is in the loop on everything. Even if it seems like a trivial piece of information to you, let the Machiavellian tell you if she doesn’t want to hear it. If she senses that you are withholding information, she’ll conclude you are competing with her and things will get unpleasant. This is about detoxing your environment, remember?
  • Accept her invitations. It might disrupt your schedule, but turning down a Machiavellian’s invitation to lunch or an event can be interpreted as resistance or a possible power move on your part. Be reasonable in the context of your own life, but understand that disinterest on your part can be a threat to a Machiavellian.
  • Frame your contributions in terms of whom she can impress.

“That oughta make Mr. Big a happy camper,” is much better than saying, “I hope Mr. Big likes what I did.” When complimenting a Machiavellian, be aware of the people higher on her food chain and construct your comments in terms of how they will be impressed and
appreciative of what she did, even if you did it.
As with all of these tactics, you must use your best judgment and balance your needs with the sacrifice you’re willing to make. Just be aware of how your attitudes and behaviors appear through your boss’s eyes. Although you and your boss might march to different drummers, the boss sets the rhythm around the office. Learning a new cadence will serve you better than forming your own drum line. You’ll probably just frustrate yourself and your boss, who in turn will drum you out.

Machiavellian Bosses

HOW TO WORK FOR AN IDIOT SURVIVE & THRIVE… WITHOUT KILLING YOUR Boss Cap II: Chapter 2: Will the Real Idiot Please Stand Up? (By John Hoover) Part 6


You’re Not Invisible

You’re Not Invisible

Remember: You’re beHOW TO WORK FOR AN IDIOT SURVIVE & THRIVE… WITHOUT KILLING YOUR Boss – Cap I: Confessions of a Recovering Idiot (By John Hoover) Part 10


You are being watched all the time. If you feel invisible or ignored, it’s likely what you’re doing isn’t sufficiently impressive or important to those around or above you. But they’re just pretending you don’t exist. Put your detective skills to work again and note what types of behavior they approve of and start behaving accordingly.

invisibleEven if you don’t plan to alter your personal style and work habits over the long term, the experiment will prove what you do and say are noticed more than you thought.

Please people and you’ll get recognition. As in the behavior modification episode with the psychology professor, you need to distinguish between what your I-Boss perceives as positive and negative behavior. In sufficient quantity, both positive and negative behaviors will make those who feel invisible visible. If you don’t elicit much attention from your I-Boss, you know whatever it is you’re doing falls into his dead zone.

Idiots lack imagination. That deficiency, coupled with the tunnel vision Idiot Bosses are famous for, means the ship will be submerged before they realize it hit an iceberg. If you want attention, you not only need to say or do things that warrant attention in the idiot’s eyes, you need to exaggerate them so much he can’t possibly fail to notice.

If you’re trying to impress your I-Boss by watering the plants around the office, drag in the fire hose from next to the elevator. If you want him to notice you’re vacuuming the carpet, remove the muffler from the vacuum cleaner so the noise will deafen people two floors away, and then run a couple of circles around his desk.


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The imitation myth

The imitation myth

The imitation myth
The imitation myth

Most bosses are promoted without the benefit of leadership training
or formalized personal development. It’s common for Idiot Bosses
to merely imitate the leadership styles and practices of their predecessors.
That’s how we learn to be parents, isn’t it? We either do what
our folks did or do the opposite, neither one of which is likely to be
the best choice.

Although they seem oblivious to nearly everything, I-Bosses can
be insecure. If an employee does something wonderful, an I-Boss
might feel a twinge of humiliation, rooted in his inability to match
competencies. He might not be able to put a finger on the feeling or
its origins, but he can take steps to make the employee feel what he’s
feeling. That’s why no good deed goes unpunished and team members
who do good things are routinely embarrassed or humiliated by their

If an I-Boss isn’t sure whether something a team member does is
good or bad, he is likely to err on the side of bad and seize control of
the situation, just to be safe. I’m embarrassed to admit I’ve done it.

I’ve joined in conversations on subjects I knew nothing about just to
appear informed. I picked up terms and phrases foreign to me and
dropped them into conversations. If no one reacted, I knew I got
away with it. If everybody stopped and looked at me, I’d act as if there
was something caught in my throat. Trust me, there are better ways to
win the confidence and respect of your team members than to wear
your ignorance on your sleeve.

HOW TO WORK FOR AN IDIOT SURVIVE & THRIVE… WITHOUT KILLING YOUR Boss – Cap I: Confessions of a Recovering Idiot (By John Hoover) Part 8

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Idiots Stranger than Fiction

Idiots Stranger than Fiction


Idiots, Idiots Everywhere and Not a Thought Worth Keeping

Idiots Stranger than Fiction
Idiots Stranger than Fiction

Part of a large and enlightened life is accepting there will always
be idiots among us, recovering idiots like me, and those who don’t
know they’re idiots. Idiocy is sometimes defined as a permanent state
of stupidity. I disagree. As a recovering idiot, I know I’ll always be
vulnerable to stupid thoughts, stupid words, and stupid deeds. But I
can reduce my dependence on them. That might sound stupid, but
I’ve lived in spite of my stupidity my whole life. I can exercise some
control, minimize the debilitating effects of stupidity, and be less annoying
to others.
In an ideal world, we would have idiot colonies and only allow
idiots off the island after they receive a one-year sobriety pin. Recovery
would be hard, especially in an idiot-rich environment. Without
intervention, the idiots would wander around looking at one another
and wonder why they’re there. Active idiots do not engage in denial;
they’re just plain clueless.
In most cases, practicing idiots don’t make life miserable for the
rest of us on purpose. They’re not likely to feel as if they’re on the
island as a form of punishment. They’ll probably think they’re there
for a Tom Peters seminar, which, in a way, is not a bad idea. If Tom
yells long and loud enough, some of them might start seeing their
fellow detainees as idiots, which is the first step to recognizing the
idiot within.
“Wait a minute,” they might think to themselves. “If they’re all
idiots, what am I doing here?” It’s a long shot, but it might work.
Imagine for a moment what your organization would look like if
the Idiot Police showed up one day and hauled off all the idiots. Which
offices would be vacant? What things wouldn’t be done? Would any
positive activities cease? Would any negative activities cease? If you
found out where your I-Boss was being held, would you send him a
postcard? Would you even…
…notice he is gone?
…care that he is gone?
Confessions of a Recovering Idiot 21
… miss him?
…feel sorry for him?
…wonder what became of him?
Back in the real world, there are no Idiot Police. We’re on our
own to deal with the idiots among us. At least those of us who are
recovering idiots know what we’re dealing with. Active idiots will remain
oblivious to the damage they cause, and non-idiots will just keep
tearing their hair out. That’s why this book is so critical to your survival.
Keep reading. There is hope.

Idiots: Stranger than Fiction

We can watch Jim Carey depicting an idiot in a film like Dumb
and Dumber and laugh. But when dumb and dumber are running organizations,
corporations, and government agencies, it’s not funny
anymore. The ugly truth is that active idiots are lurking all around us.
The tentacles of their stupidity reach deep into the lives of millions.
Their power is indescribable. Fortunately, idiots are largely unaware
of how much power they wield. If I-Bosses knew how many bullets
they have in the chamber, things could really get scary.
All idiots might be created equal, but there is a wide disparity in
how they are endowed by their Creator. Through some mysterious
quirk of nature, cosmic hiccup, or an evolutionary belch in the universe,
some idiots are granted the freedom to do whatever they want
to do, whenever they want to do it, and have unlimited resources to
do so. They will also receive complete anonymity on demand, no accountability
for anything they might choose to do, and not lift a finger
to make it all possible.
Why is there such power in stupidity? The answer will roll out in
front of you like a red carpet as you read on. It’s too much to capture
in a single sentence or clever phrase. Contexts must be built. Paradigms
must be shifted. Thoughts must exit the box.

HOW TO WORK FOR AN IDIOT SURVIVE SZ THRIVE… WITHOUT KILLING YOUR Boss – Cap I: Confessions of a Recovering Idiot (By John Hoover) Part 4


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Back to School Fashion

Back to School Fashion

fashionWe use various ways to express ourselves. We either use words or we use other symbols. We make use of signals, we make use of gestures and we also make use of fashion to tell the world what we want to say. When we put on our clothes for the day, it is like we are declaring to the world our attitude for the day. This is the reason why it is so interesting to observe the back-to-school fashion preferences of people. The back to school fashion preference of a person shows who he will be for the whole term in a nutshell.

There are those people who wear practically the same thing they did in the last term. The bad thing about this is that this could be an indication of little to no personal growth in the past term. This could be an indication that the person did not mature in the past year. What could make this worse is if that person had been wearing the same fashion for more than 5 years. That could be an indicator of a serious problem.

The positive interpretation of this could be that the person has matured enough to have found his or her identity in life. This type of back-to-school fashion could indicate that a person is already perfectly happy with the image that he or she presents and that they feel no urge to change. It could also be an indication that the person has had a great past year and wishes to recapture that year.

There are people who exhibit great changes in their back to school fashion. There is also a good side and a bad side to this. The good interpretation of this is that the person has experienced an epiphany. A change in back-to-school fashion could be an indicator that a person has reached a new level of maturity and is ready to face the world with a new attitude. He or she could be declaring to the world that he or she is a new person, changed for the better and willing to tackle the world head on.

There is also a dark side to this change in back-to-school fashion. A person could have suffered from an event so cataclysmic that it required the person to reject his or her old personality entirely. A drastic change in back-to-school fashion could be akin to a person screaming, “I am not who I used to be. It will not happen to me anymore!” not all changes are good and not all changes are bad. That fact must be understood.

There are students whose back to school fashion is based on what a certain group is wearing. The positive side to this is that it indicates social acceptance. A person who has this type of back to school fashion shows that he or she is sociable and knows how to make friends with at least a certain group of people. However, this could also be an indication of a lack of initiative. People who dress the way others do may do so because they don’t really have any idea of what to wear. They let their groups decide their fashion because without the group, they really have no idea who they are.

Now you know that back to school fashion is a great indication of who a person is.


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Jeep Lanyard Wholesale

Jeep Lanyard Wholesale


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Are you ready for LOVE?

Are you ready for LOVE?


Are you ready for LOVE
Are you ready for LOVE

Want More Love and Joy? Has your current relationship lost its sizzle? What prevents you from being ‘in love’? Sexual Desires respond to outside forces such as stress and emotional experiences. Your sexual desires often change. Discover five tips to re-sexualize your self and improve your sex life. Learn how resistance prevents you from having the love you desire. As you begin to feel better about yourself, people will begin to notice you differently. Are you ready for LOVE?

Are you at a place in your life where you aren’t attracting the love you want?Has your current relationship lost its sizzle? What prevents you from being ‘in love’? How much energy do you exert NOT to love yourself or others? It takes more effort NOT to love, than to love.

Want More Love and Joy?

In order to make room for what you do want, you have to release and let go of the things you don’t want. To attract what you want, you will want to let go of everything that keeps you away from Love. Like attracts like.

Unless you want to continue on your current path, you are probably overdue of letting go of emotional pain of a break-up, past failures or the need for approval. Maybe you continuously seek recognition at work or have unrealistic expectations for yourself. Thoughts like, “I’m not attractive” or “I will never have a loving relationship” need to be purged.

What You Resist – Persists

As long as you continue to resist painful memories and limiting thoughts and beliefs you create separation. You create separation from your true self. You separate yourself from what you are ‘love’! And, love remains illusive.

Are you resisting painful experiences from your past? Are you doing everything you can to forget the past? Maybe you think that the more you put your past behind you, the less effect it will have on you.

Do you spend hours contemplating problems? When you focus on your problems, they persist. Your contempt for your problems fuels and strengthens them. The more energy you direct to your problems and pain, you create ‘stress’ and ‘dis-ease’.

Are You Holding on to Pain?

Do you find yourself watching endless hours of TV? Are you trying to escape emotional and spiritual pain by taking drugs or alcohol? Do you overeat to escape the pain? Do you use your computer for hours on end to escape? What distractions take you out of being present with what you are feeling? Stored up pain such as hatred, anger, fear, frustration, apathy, depression etc. become scattered in your body and energetic space.

Releasing Stuck Pain or Resistance

If you have ever been light-headed from hunger and then felt a sigh of contentment as you fed your body the perfect meal, you’ve experienced grounding. If you’ve ever melted into the back rub you got from a trusted person at the end of a stressful day, you’ve experienced being grounded.

Grounding is a simple process of connecting to the Earth that many people do naturally throughout the course of a day. Anything that brings you to the sense of pleasure and release is grounding. When you are grounded, you feel centered focused, and present.

People connect with their bodies and the Earth in many ways: through touch and body work, through eating, through being out in nature or in water, through contact with animals and through healthy sex. Visualizing, an imaginary grounding cord, is a way to release foreign energy from your body so that it can experience love and joy.

Create a Path for Releasing to Feel Safe and Happy

A grounding cord provides a way to flush out pent up energy and emotion so you can feel good about yourself. It is a way to move energy as it comes towards you, rather than letting it get stuck in the body. When foreign energy gets stuck in the body, it stops the natural flow of energy and might manifest as depression, a migraine headache, aches, pain, or eventually illness.

Effortless Release Every Day for More Love

Grounding works much like a drain or waterfall. When you pour water down the drain you probably never wonder ….:”where did it go?” Be patient with yourself and have fun with your new toy. Grounding becomes as natural like breathing or smiling with practice.

Consider releasing other people’s problems, your worries and anxiety that are weighing you down… Keep it simple and stay amused with yourself. Tune into being in harmony with this process of grounding and letting everything go effortlessly.

Grounding is such an invaluable tool in healing yourself that it’s worth taking the time to be sure you can do it easily and comfortably. With practice, you can train yourself to be connected with the earth all of the time. Don’t create any limits for yourself on how much you can release without effort.

Grounding Cord Visualization

To revitalize and refresh your body, mind and spirit take the first step by letting go with grounding. It is always the first step to all the subsequent steps in this book. From the base of your spine, make a connection to the healing planet energy to release excess energy and stabilize your body.
1. Close eyes but stay focused.
• Be aware of own body with your feet flat on the floor.
Create a mental image of line of energy between base of spine and the center of the planet.
• Connect a grounding cord into the center of earth.
• Secure the grounding cord snuggly at the base of your spine.
• Notice your breathing.
• Using the gravitational pull of the planet start to release foreign or stuck energy from your body and aura.
• Notice how your body feels while grounding. Imagine seeing stuck energy draining out of you.

Remember to:
1. Start your day with by grounding yourself.
2. Check in with yourself during the day to see if you have a grounding cord.
3. Notice what happens in your body as you release using your grounding cord.

Grounding is one way to bring your self back into alignment with your essence– love. Practice the following grounding meditation 10-15 minutes each day. The more you practice to better your results.

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True Love! We all dream of being in love with that significant other, at some point in our lives. Is it better to have loved once than not to have loved at all? If this is really the case, then how do we actually find true love? How can a man or a woman really get to the core of the whole relationship game? What are the rules of such a game?
More often than not, it is not uncommon to find that either one partner feels really strongly about the other, whilst the other just bides time because he or she is the only one “available” at the time.

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The key to marriage and happily-ever-after, lies first and foremost, with finding the right person. A lot of folks believe that there may be just one unique individual for every person in the world. I however, beg to differ. Wherever one goes, there is always the possibility of meeting one or more persons who uniquely match our tastes – philosophically, culturally, materially, emotionally and of course, physically (those sure do come a dime a dozen).
Okay, let’s get down to brass tacks here. Why would one person be into another, whilst the other hardly misses a beat? There are a myriad of reasons, reasons which I will discuss in other articles. For now, we’d discuss the most fundamental one: Maybe he/she is not your “true love”.

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This leads us to a definition of the same. What is true love? Simply put, true love is the epitome of all your needs and desires in the other person, to a large extent. To a large extent? I hear you ask. Surely, to a large extent, because you can NEVER meet another human being who perfectly epitomizes what you truly desire in a significant other. To a large extent, however, it is possible to find such a one, but only just so.
Let’s analyze the last bit of my discourse for instance. Twins born of the same womb would hardly always see eye to eye over the same issue. Husbands and wives, even after 50 years of marriage would still not see eye-to-eye on certain issues, yet they live together: happily, we hope. Hence, why wait for the perfect person?
Humans are basically emotional and whimsical creatures. We are not robots, cannot be programmed to do only the same things. The only way we discipline ourselves is via several years of repetition, till we perform almost by rote. Therefore, we can never be perfect. Not in everything. You can never get another man just the exact flavor, the exact shade, the exact build, the exact manner of laughter, the exact you name it. Even if heor she’s of pristine character, he may defer from his ways just because. Because what? Just because. BECAUSE WHAT? “CAUSE I FELT LIKE IT, OKAY?” Whimsical Creatures.
It could have been anything. The room temperature, the color of the sky, his boss may have spoken rudely to him, he got drenched in the rain, blah, blah, blah.
Okay, so don’t look for perfection. That’s the first general rule of finding true love. In further articles, I will expound further on Finding True Love.



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