Step Family Day was established to recognize and show appreciation for the importance and value of step-parents and extended families. Our research discovered that this holiday was founded by Christy Borgeld of Grand Rapids, Michigan. We also found some references to this event as “National” Step Family Day. We found no documentation that this holiday is a true “national day”, which requires an act of Congress.
Step Family Day was first celebrated with a picnic on September 16, 1997. The suggested method of celebration is a picnic at a park. Since it’s inception, it has slowly gained recognition and popularity.
Step families are created through death of a parent, divorce or separation. A step mom or dad comes into our life, often accompanied by a step brother or sister.
Decades ago, most marriages lasted for life. Separation and divorce was often looked down upon. In today’s society divorce and remarriages are commonplace. Over 50% of all marriages end up in divorce. That means over half of us are divorced and/or children of divorces. That gives us cause to recognize the extended family, and how they can enrich our lives.
Time Alone Makes Step family Life More Successful
by Jo Ball
I realise this article is all about blending a family together successfully so what am I doing talking about time without the children you might ask?
Well because I believe it’s vital! Yep, that’s right, I think to have stepfamily bliss you need to make sure that you and your partner have special time alone. We rarely get time to sit and discuss us or our family when there is homework to help with, chauffeuring to carry out, ironing to be done and…the list could go on.
You’ve probably heard that old saying ‘you need to work at a relationship’. We’ll I also ask my clients to think of it like a plant. In the early stages it’s finding it’s way in life and growing stronger all the time. Then if it doesn’t get the right amount of water and light it can all go pear shaped pretty quickly. Your relationship is like that plant. It can grow into and remain a beautiful strong healthy plant with the right nurturing – input – from you.
Inevitably bad feelings grow because something that could have been spoken about and sorted out sooner wasn’t. So taking time out together will allow you to discuss any issues before any conflict occurs. It’s like clearing the weeds before they take over.
In many ways being in a stepfamily makes time alone easy to achieve.
For example, it’s now half term and both our children have been dropped off at their mothers. My partner and I now have five days to recharge our parenting batteries and get wrapped up in each other for a while. I’m loving it!
Now don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean I don’t want my stepchildren around, far from it. It does mean that my partner and I get some very special time to pay attention to us which will keep our relationship strong and therefore benefit the children immensely.
When the children return we arrange a special welcome home, which immediately bonds our family back together.
There are other ways, including sitters, that you can create some time alone with your partner. If you both have children you could try and work it so that their visits with their other parent occur at the same time. When was the last time you has some quality time alone with your partner? How soon will be the next time? Book it in today! Enjoy!
The Stepfamily Coach
Positive Thinking Day is today. Today is all about attitude…. a positive attitude. It’s a lot like the ant, when faced with moving a rubber tree plant thought “I think I can”. With that in mind, I just know that everything will go fine from this day forward.
The power of positive thinking is absolutely astounding. Medical research confirms that a positive attitude works wonders at fighting disease and ailments, from the common
cold to cancer. People with an “I think I can” attitude, are far more likely to succeed at work, and in accomplishing every goal they set in life.
Today’s Quote: “It takes just a moment to change your attitude. And, in that quick moment, you can change your entire day.” – – Author Unknown
Have a happy Positive Thinking Day! We just know you’re going to have a spectacular day.
Origin of Positive Thinking Day:
We have not found the creator of this special day……yet. But, do you know what I’m thinking? I’m pretty positive that we will soon find the creator of Positive Thinking Day!
You Gotta Be Positive!
by Sonya C. Triggs
The most uplifting, encouraging and energizing songs I’d ever heard. Don’t’ believe me? Well, here is the chorus: “You Gotta Be Bad, You Gotta Be Bold, You Gotta Be Wiser. You Gotta Be Hard, You Gotta Be Tough, You Gotta Be Stronger. You Gotta Be Cool, You Gotta Be Calm, You Gotta Stay Together. All I Know, All I Know, Love Will Save the Day.” Now, repeat that to yourself 10 times (or better yet, buy the CD) and tell me how you feel. Bet you start feeling better. Bet you want to start dancing around the room (especially if you’re listening to the CD!).
Des’ree’s song is a great example of the power of positive affirmation. What is positive affirmation? It is a conscious effort to feed your psyche positive, uplifting, or inspiring messages, which will lead to having a positive, uplifting or inspiring life. Sounds good doesn’t, it? It’s simple to practice and the benefits are lasting. After all, there are few things stronger or more important than the human psyche. Your psyche determines how much you enjoy your life, how good you feel, how pleasant you are to other people, your goal-setting abilities, your attitude, and pretty much everything about your temperament, your moods and your behavior. Your psyche is who you are. And wouldn’t you like that ‘who’ to be a better person?
Here are some great positive affirmations you can use in your every day life:
I am happy with my life!
I am grateful for my family and friends!
I am grateful to have people who love and care about me!
I accept myself the way I am!
I accept other people the way they are!
No matter what is going on, it’s only temporary!
I can handle anything that life throws at me!
I am always striving to do better!
I will learn from my mistakes!
Life is a gift and I will enjoy it!
These are just a few examples, but feel free to come up with your own and change them depending on your situation. Start feeling better about yourself, your life and your circumstances today!
Happy Teddy Bear Holiday. A Teddy Bear is a special friend to children all over the world. He’s cuddly. He makes you feel secure in an otherwise insecure world. He’s lovable. Your Teddy Bear is both a companion and a comforter. And, he’s not afraid of the dark. He’ll keep you safe.
Spend the day and night with your teddy bear . Cuddle up to him. Talk to him. And, do all of your favorite things together.
Parents and adults: No child should grow up without a teddy bear. If you know of any kid without one, use this day to buy a teddy bear for them.
As we become adults, some find it difficult to give up our teddy bears. We feel there is no reason to give him up. Some adults have their teddy bears around all their lives. Its perfectly normal….and okay.
Have a happy Teddy Bear Day!
s Pet Insurance Right for You?
by Sherry Kirchenbauer
What is Pet Insurance?
Pet insurance is a health plan for your pet to insure against large and small unexpected veterinary bills over the life of your pet.
Potential treatments for your pet now rival human treatments both in sophistication and cost. Pet insurance is designed to alleviate much of the financial risk and insecurity that caring for your pet can bring.
Pet insurance is common in many European countries. However, it remains rare in the U.S. There are about 130 million pet cats and dogs in the United States, but only a handful of pet owners (fewer than 300,000) take advantage of these policies. Pet insurance has been around for about 20 years, but many pet owners don’t know that it exists, or they think the insurance costs are too high.
Should You Get Pet Insurance?
There have been tremendous technological advances in the care that is available for our pets. Procedures such as kidney transplants and cancer treatment are becoming more commonplace. Did you know that many pets do not receive potentially life-saving treatments because the cost is too great for the owners to bear? Pet insurance, like medical insurance for humans, can help reduce that risk of caring for a pet and lessen the frequency of “financial euthanasia,” the decision to put a pet to sleep because there is no money to pay for the pet’s necessary medical care.
A bad candidate for pet insurance is a pet owner who wants cat or dog, but will put him or her to sleep instead of spending large amounts of money to save their pet if he or she gets sick or injured. Unfortunately, many pet owners put a dollar value on their pets’ lives. When the bills start to add up, many pet owners consider euthanasia at around $250.
If you are the type of dog owner who would devote an unlimited amount of time and money into healing your dog, then you are a good candidate for pet insurance, because it will probably save you money in a bad situation. Family pets are an important part of your life. You want to give them more than just a loving home. You want your pet to have proper nutrition, a comfortable environment, exercise, and the health care he or she needs.
Pet insurance allows you to provide your pet with the best possible care. Decisions regarding treatment are no longer complicated by financial restrictions. Treatments that may otherwise be unattainable can be provided without a second thought. Your primary concern becomes the health of your pet, not the cost of care.
Do you want your life to be getting better and better? I know, I know, that’s a silly question. I know I want my life to be steadily improving, and I suspect just about everyone else does too. What a lot of people don’t know, is that there is a very simple technique which makes that easy. The method is so easy to use and straightforward that this article will be rather short. It’s just that simple.
I was reminded of this technique when I saw it show up as one of the steps in Mark Joyner’s Simpleology program. That is just the latest incarnation, as it has been used by focused and successful people through history from great religious men to presidents.
It is the continual process of self-review. I know you were expecting some fancy name with a trademark and what I gave you sounded really boring, but hear me out.
What you do is to regularly (generally at the end of each day) think back over your day and write down the things you did wrong and what you can do in the future to keep from making the same mistakes. In the Simpleology program this is used to help analyze places where you are wasting time or reducing your energy, but the technique can be applied to anything.
Religious: I have read of great religious men of the past asking themselves each night how they could have been purer. If they had allowed some base thought in their minds, they would work to keep it from happening again.
Health: What better choices could you have made in what you ate, how you exercised, or the activities you engaged in?
Financial: Did you spend money you shouldn’t and how could you have used it better? What decisions could you have made to put yourself in a better financial position?
Social: Did you say something you wish you hadn’t? Made some unwelcome joke or discouraging comment? Did you not say something you should have?
You get the picture. This technique is adaptable to any area of behavior you are focused on. Not only that, but you don’t have to use it for some specialty. If you have a clear picture of the person you want to become, merely ask yourself what decisions you made that day that don’t draw you towards being that person. Figure out how you can avoid making that same mistake or a similar one in the future.
THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT! Don’t forget to use this technique the other direction to help you reinforce positive behaviors. Whatever your goal is, ask yourself if you did anything that took you towards it, and figure out how to repeat that success.
I know, I know this all sounds so simple and self-obvious, but think of all the people you know who make the same mistakes over and over again. How many people do you know who seem to be on an endlessly repeating cycle of bad finances, bad relationships, bad morals, or whatever other area they struggle in? How many times have you wished that they could just see the same couple mistakes they make over and over again and fix them?
All of us can benefit from this little technique, even if our poor choices aren’t major ones. In fact it is especially helpful because the little decisions which keep us from improving are not obvious so we don’t automatically work on them, and the decisions which take us forward may not have caught our attention so we don’t repeat them.
The best part about this little technique is that it isn’t like those major goal setting sessions where you organize your life and try to change the entire course of your future in a single four hour euphoria-high session. That kind of overhaul can have it’s purposes, but your enthusiastic plans and goals are normally forgotten within days, until desperation drives you to do it again (i.e. New Year’s resolutions). No, this is a little habit that takes maybe five minutes an evening and keeps you on a steady even keel of continual improvement.
Try it for a month or so. If you aren’t used to keeping a journal, it might feel weird, but just do it for a few minutes each night and then review your entries every month or so. You will find your negative behaviors steadily decreasing and your positive ones increasing, and you will get your wish of a life that gets better and better each day.
Happy Be Late For Something Holiday. Be Late For Something Day is a great day to be a procrastinator. If you are among the millions of us who never seem to be able to stay on schedule, then you will certainly enjoy today.
Being late for something as a common occurrence. It’s caused by a whole host of reasons. Some are intentional, some are not. Fall behind schedule early in the day today, and you will be late for everything that follows. Doctors and lawyers are notoriously late for something….their appointment with you! It’s proper to be “fashionably late” for parties.
Important Note: We hope you thoroughly enjoy and participate in theis day. But, whatever you do, don’t’ be late for dinner!
It is easy and natural to enjoy this special day. All you have to do is be late for something. That’s easy for procrastinators. And, perhaps its easy for you.
Origin of Be Late For Something Day:
We found no factual information about this special day. There are a number of procrastinator’s clubs and groups. We suspect that one of them created this special day, and …… is still thinking about documenting this day.
If you have any information about this holiday, please email us.
Are Your Dreams A Day Late And A Dollar Short?
by Richard Vegas
One of the greatest challenges facing our ever intensive quest for the impossible dream is to make it across the finish line even if it’s only by the skin of our teeth. Many outstanding accomplishments have been started just to see our vision die one foot short of the goal line. Sound familiar? Don’t get your knickers in a twist; here’s an idea.
Cry Me A River!
Have you ever experienced this? Maybe a dream or desire that you have had your heart set on suddenly drops square in the lap of some bozo that couldn’t fight his way out of a wet paper bag. Suddenly, your dream is now the property of someone else and all the nice things you used to think about that person now just took a hike.
Did you know one of the best tests of our character is when we face the fiery furnace of failure? Especially when that furnace burns up our dream just inches before we take it to the bank.
Many pursuits, that we chase, seem to stop dead in their tracks almost at the very beginning. That’s probably a blessing in disguise. If every thing we pursued, or most every thing, all came unraveled at the very end, we probably would go nuts.
Just getting that close to the prize creates such anticipation, that if almost all of them flopped, we would probably stop trying just to avoid the emotional trauma. But, life is kind to us to prevent us from putting forth that much effort, consistently, and then see our dream land in the lap of someone else.
Don’t Look A Gift Horse In The Mouth!
Now, you see, you thought life was mean to you. But, the other way of looking at it is; it spared us from getting to the one foot line and then blowing up in our face.
I am not a huge baseball fan but I heard the story of Babe Ruth and the great success he had in his career. It was a super accomplishment to have hit over seven hundred home runs in his life in the major leagues. But, he also struck out over fourteen hundred times.
There was a particular game that Babe struck out every time he got up to the plate, except the last time. And, in this game every time he got up he swung at the ball so hard that he fell in the dirt. A newspaper reporter told Babe he should not swing so hard. Babe said, “Ah, don’t pity me, pity those poor pitchers”.
Some Good News And, Some Bad News!
As I thought about my life in business I think that’s about the ratio that holds true; Two failures for every success. Some successes were gigantic, some were mediocre, and some were heart breaking. Of course the heart breaking ones are the big failures.
Some failures are labeled failures too quickly. Many times I have seen something wonderful happen long after I had destined some dream to the garbage dump. Then something happened that resurrected that puppy and seemed to breathe life back into it.
At that moment a breath of life and enthusiasm seemed to overtake me and, I found myself buzzing around like a swarm of hornets to put that dream back in the winners circle.
Dead As A Dodo!
I know this has happened to many people. But, why? Here is my personal observation. Many times we get so caught up in a situation we no longer can see the situation. Then something happens and the dream meets the deadline of death.
At that point we lick our wounds for awhile and go on to the next dream. Well, now we are out of the situation, we are not even thinking about that dream anymore. We are completely divorced from the dream and have no feelings about it one way or the other mentally or emotionally.
Maybe there is some wisdom here we need to get a hold of. Anything in this world we put more of our body mind soul and spirit into, than where they should be, stands the “chance” of being ripped out of our hands. And, when the ripping is over we realize we were only a day late and a dollar short.
A Word To The Wise!
That’s when we get into this syndrome; If only, If only, If only; the stage of regrets. Well, what’s the answer? It can be very difficult to walk a very fine line of between adequate commitment and self-serving irresponsibility. And, sometimes we have crossed that line long before we realize it.
Then the only way we find out where we are is when the dream is losing that “look of success”. If a dream is in danger of slipping away from you, the first thing I would do is an honest assessment of my commitment to it. Contrary to popular opinion, you can destroy your own dreams by setting them up as idols in your life.
I know I’ve done it. No one is slick enough to always know when they have crossed the line between adequate commitment and self-serving irresponsibility, so don’t expect to. But, look at your behavior and most of the time you can tell. I warn you; it’s very difficult to ease off if you think you have crossed the line, because of your existing momentum
Pain In The Neck!
Most of the time, the dream itself will have to back you off by showing you the signs of hopelessness; not a very empowering feeling. You will see small personality changes such as: over aggressiveness, temper outbursts, no time for anyone else, everyone else is wrong, and constantly thinking about money or the lack of it.
If any of these personality traits seem to be exhibiting themselves in you, I would bet a dollar to a doughnut you have an idol in your life. There is something that you have given your body mind and soul to and it’s turning around to bite you.
Remember earlier in this article when we talked about the person who ended up with the dream you wanted and seemly didn’t even have to lift a finger to get it? It just dropped in their lap. Do you see now what might have happened? It was one of those paradoxes of life that makes about as much sense as a screen door on a submarine…
Lighter Than Air!
It was not an idol to them. They were not possessed to the point of selling out every thing else in life that has meaning. So, the dream just flowed naturally and easily in their direction. Will it always happen this way? Don’t you wish?
But, I can leave you with this final thought. Any dream that you are pursuing right now that seems to possess your soul, turn down the fiery furnace of desire. And, even if you don’t achieve it, you won’t risk turning your personality into a Frankenstein. And, who knows, it just might drop in your lap.
The war in the Pacific was hard fought and bloody. The tide had definitely turned, and the U.S. military was fighting island by island towards Japan. Resistance was fierce. Casualties on both sides were high.
The U.S. had developed the atomic bomb. The U.S. government was anxious to end the war, and stop the loss of American lives.
On August 6th, 1945, the United States military dropped an atomic bomb over the city of Hiroshima, Japan in an effort to force Japan into an immediate, unconditional surrender. Instead of immediately surrendering, the Japanese government debated what to do. So, the U.S. dropped a second atomic bomb on August 9, 1945 over the city of Nagasaki, Japan.
On August 14, 1945, Japanese Emperor Hirohito cabled the U.S. to surrender, and agreed to the terms of the Potsdam Declaration.
On August 15, 1945, news of the surrender was announced to the world. World War II was finally over. Hostilities ended.
On September 2, 1945, the Japanese formally surrendered aboard the U.S. battleship USS Missouri in Tokyo Bay. President Truman declared this to be V-J Day.
Did You Know? The battleship USS Missouri was chosen for the formal surrender ceremony, as she was named after President Truman’s home state.